Being submissive in bed can be highly erotic. When you actively surrender to your partner, sex becomes sensational. You’re at the mercy of your man’s touch — and not knowing what’s next can make sex more intense and exciting.

Your arousal is heightened when you give up all the control — especially if you’ve ever fantasized about being taken charge of in bed. Set the scene: Close your eyes and imagine being ravaged by your partner, a sexy stranger, anyone — just get lost in your own delicious fantasy.

Then let your partner in on your secret. Of course, don’t tell him if you’ve been fantasizing about someone else (that’s for your own personal inspiration), but do tell him you want to be totally under his control. Believe me, he’ll be thrilled with his new authority! You can lay down some ground rules if you’d like. Will you be tied up? Should he tease you? Think about what you want out of the experience and then let him take the wheel. Even better, let him surprise you right from the get-go — you’ll both love it!