Think back to one of your first dates with your partner. You probably deliberated over your outfit as though you were going to the Academy Awards, trying on everything in your closet at least once. You spent a half-hour making sure your hair and makeup were done, but not too done, and made sure you were perfectly buffed and plucked from head to toe, even when sex was not yet in the cards. You did all of this because it made you feel beautiful, sexy, and — most importantly — irresistible.

What about now? Are sweatpants and a scrunchie your weekend uniform? Have you started to go longer and longer without shaving? Can you even remember the last time you dressed up when it was just the two of you? It’s one thing to be in a place of complete comfort with your partner and another to stop caring altogether. There’s a good chance your partner misses those days when your legs (and other parts) were smooth, soft, and sexy. He misses the effort you used to put into your appearance just because you knew the two of you would be together.

It’s really very simple — men are visual beings. Women tend to focus more on other relationship qualities like reliability, trust, and emotional intimacy. Men care about all these things too, but appearance still reigns supreme when it comes to lighting his fire. Whether it’s taking the time to put on a little lip gloss, doing your best to maintain a healthy weight, or dressing up just because, making a conscious choice to do something extra lets him know you still care about attracting his attention.

This weekend, why not surprise him? Dress to impress — and that doesn’t have to mean three-inch heels or an evening gown. Simply keep in mind that you can easily entice your guy’s sexual appetite with a visual treat every now and then. And you’ll be amazed at how great you feel knowing your partner is excited by the way you look.